One of the things that has begun to irritate me as I get older is the lack of talent among so-called professionals. Actually, it's not talent they're lacking, it's a gift for the trade, art, or whatever you want to call it.
If you have ever ordered school photos of your child, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Many times I have been shocked at the poor quality of the pose.
My daughter is a senior in high school and is struggling with choices for her future. So I took the opportunity to explain the difference between having an interest in something, having a passion for something, and having a gift ( a calling ) for something.
I believe if you have a gift for something, a gift you were born with, then that is something that should be nurtured and pursued with great passion.
Anyone can learn photography, but only those who have been given the gift of the artistic eye of a true photographer can capture the perfect pose along with the proper lighting and background. Only a gifted photographer can snap the camera capturing the perfect expression. That's something you can try to learn, but apparently it isn't taught, so I have no idea if it is possible to acquire the knack of getting the right facial expression that parents long to have.
I've seen wedding photos that cost a fortune and yet they didn't compare to the photos I snapped myself. Not bragging here, just stating a fact.
Many people (as we have seen on American Idol) believe they can sing simply because they "love" to sing, yet obviously to the rest of the world they have no "gift" of singing. Maybe some of them could actually learn to sing if they put in the time (and the money) with a vocal coach, but many of them have been lied to if they have been told they can sing.
Perhaps it's a problem of this generation of parents who are told to praise their children to build self esteem. Hmmm, if the pride is false and without any substance, then what good does it really do a person? They may end up humiliating themselves because someone told them they were "good" at something they stunk at.
I remember in my younger, dating days, getting on the dance floor with many a guy who thought he could dance. Of course, dancing is one of those things we do for the sheer joy of it, so it really doesn't matter if you can dance or not. No one really cares unless you are putting on a show. So I guess dancing doesn't count.
At any rate, I am thankful for those who do have gifts, who discover them, and then pursue them with the passion a gift deserves. I wish all such gifted people the best of luck and success in their chosen profession.
And by the way, I believe we are all gifted with something.
Finding it is the problem.